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Whether it's in your personal life or business, if you keep doing the same things you will keep getting the same results. We want to get different results yet we often repeat the pattern and yet we expect something different. Think about that, if you're doing anything in business and it's not yielding sales or desired results, why keep doing the same thing? I like to say 1 + 1 = 2 every time. Or I can be cute and say, you can't "sort of" be pregnant. You either are or you aren't ... there is no between. So, if you do X and you get Y and you think you should get Z, ask yourself what in that formula doesn't work? This rigid pattern can only be broken by you deciding to do A to finally get Z. So, let me use a personal example. If you want a different reaction from someone yet you continually do X behavior and you continue to get Y results when you want Z results, you have to stop doing X and take a different approach. Why does this sound so simple yet it...

Have you heard that before: we teach others how to treat us ? I had to two major epiphanies today. My lovely operations manager Bo Bradley, whose forthcoming book Hot Mess comes out soon, writes about co-depenency. We were having an in-depth discussion about some of my personal issues. And the topic of self-love came up. Well, I don't want to get into too much detail, but I did not have a lot of "unconditional love" growing up. I've gone on to perpetuate a lot of behaviors and patterns I learned at home. In my new life as a newly single woman, I have found myself in a situation where one of my male "friends" has treated me terribly. With every excuse under the sun that one can imagine, he has continually bailed out or found any dozen excuses not to show up. It has gotten to the point where I expect him not to show -- and not showing up is the rule and not the exception . It hit me today that I taught him it was perfectly okay not to ever show up. He didn...